Book Note: Overplayed by David King & Margot Starbuck

As a former NCAA Division-I athlete and a Christian, I was defensive about reading this book. As a parent of two young girls I was curious.

The premise is simple: the pressure to be involved in youth sports is overwhelming in the United States. What’s at stake? What are the realities? What are our options? What practical tips can parents use to balance  decisions regarding their children’s participation? Authors David King, a former coach at several levels and the current athletic director at a Division III University, and Margot Starbuck, a mom with three kids at various levels of athletic participation, tackle those issues and more. They approach their analysis from a Christian worldview that primarily affects the motives they assume in their readers for implementing their suggestions.

King and Starbuck cover common myths contributing to inordinate amounts of time, energy, and money being put towards organized youth sports. Their coverage is comprehensive, but it is flexible. They acknowledge that each family will have different priorities and different levels of genuine interest from their kids. Further, they do not stop at simply addressing the surface question of “how often should my kid be involved?” They dig deep to expose the risks of early rigorous participation – particularly of specialized participation- and they confront the reality of the expectations associated with pushing kids through athletics with the objective of getting a sports scholarship.

For an idea of what they cover, here is their Table of Contents:


From my perspective as an athlete who did the travel touring, two-sport juggling, college scouting exercises, this book is right through and through. They do not give a “one-size-fits-all” answer, but they do provide a breadth of analysis and coverage to inform parents further. The hard part will be convincing parents to make some of the tough calls. And, as someone who is one of the 3% of athletes who received scholarship funds (part athletic, part academic) to play in the NCAA I will tell you bluntly what the gist is: It is not a “free-ride” to school. It is prepaid.

As a Christian I appreciated their discernment in noting that ripping your child out of every Sunday practice/game is not always the right way to demonstrate your beliefs. They put the conversation in the context of discussing values and priorities with your child at the start of the season and making decisions then based on where possible conflicts might emerge. As with all their considerations, King and Margot reached beyond the superficial issues and provided nuanced commentary and thoughtful perspective. 

As a parent, my husband and I were more convinced of our need to slow down our eldest daughter’s activity in early sports (spurred by her excited, and well-intentioned parents). We were concerned about early injuries, about negative interactions with adults, about nurturing a disgust with physical activity instead of nurturing her natural energy and curiosity, and on and on and on. As a parent, I also began to question some of the other extra-curricular activities we have considered for her moving forward. The conversation  doesn’t end with this book – or with sports – but it’s a solid place to start.

The content of the book is readable by anyone, Christian or not, who is interested in better understanding the youth sport dynamic in the United States. If you are in any way involved or about to be involved in it then read this book. Then keep it as a resource and reference it often. And make the hard decisions. 



9 Responses to “Book Note: Overplayed by David King & Margot Starbuck”

  1. Carrie Rubin

    Sounds like a great book, and I agree it’s an important issue. We want our kids to be active and enjoy the benefits of team activities, but on the other hand, we don’t want them so over-involved they get stressed out or have overuse injuries. Thanks for the heads-up about the book.

  2. ParentingIsFunny

    Sounds intriguing. I have heard stories from other parents about the craziness of sports. My kids don’t do sports, probably because I never did, but I’m happy to avoid the mania.

    • RebeccaV

      Yep. One less avenue for craziness is probably a good thing. Plus, kids have so many options for engagement that sports is just one blip on the radar! Plenty of other ways to go crazy 🙂

  3. Book Club Mom

    Such a timely subject. When kids grow up playing competitive sports throughout their youth and high school, with little free time for anything else, there needs to be a pullback and a group effort to re-balance.

    • RebeccaV

      I agree. It seems like a lot of parents feel pressure though to keep pushing through. At least once the authors made a point of saying “It’s okay. Give yourself permission.” I hope more parents will.

      • Book Club Mom

        Yes it can be such a grind and towards what? Once kids get into college they see how much else there is. Playing a sport has somehow become a job.

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